Dating a divorced woman with kids
They ask, they demand, they whine, they want all kinds of things. And I know that if I have an opportunity to play with my kids, at this point in my life, I’m going to choose that, whenever possible.
But in a primary relationship I also want to play with my partner.
From that point on, please treat it as an unexpected emergency. But if you’re avoiding the confrontation because “his kids need him all the time,” that might be the issue right there.
Married couples face the same challenge, and the balance between these two desires of mine is more about respect and courtesy than it is about being divorced or not.♦◊♦As a divorced dad I am just now entering in a new dating relationship with a woman who does not have kids. We have already had moments of “oh shit, your kids are there, I’m sorry …” and “don’t worry about the kids, they are in their rooms studying.” If I try to imagine her point of view I’d be projecting, so I’ll stick with mine.
As a divorced dad I do understand that my kids are a priority. But kids can be used as an unhealthy defense mechanism as well.
Most middle-years children need some time to adjust to their parents' separation before their mother or father begins having new romantic interests.
In general, a good guideline is about a six-month wait from the time you separate from your spouse to the time you start to date, although dating will often occur sooner.