The best way to understand the reasoning behind such cultures is to put aside your own beliefs, opinions, and preconceived ideas in order to see more clearly before dismissing it as wrong.
While it may not be for all and love marriages in India are not unheard of or a rare sighting by any means…arranged marriages aren’t necessarily a bad thing either!
What makes this system work in India is a great deal of trust in the choices of one’s parents.
It’s the confidence that parents not only love their daughter and have her best interest at heart, but that they also have more wisdom and can make a better decision for her in the area of marriage.
So a family with several sons will have their wives and children all living together in the same house.
Typically, the burden for the arrangement of the marriage is on the parents.
Although most westerners cannot even begin to imagine marrying someone they do not love or know well enough, it does have it’s practical points especially in India.
A relationship not bound by marriage is more easily broken for the smaller nuances in life.
An Indian woman described it as “Here, we get married without having feelings for the person.
We base our marriage on commitment, not on feelings. In America, you base your decision to marry on feelings, but what happens when the feelings wane?
This time after the engagement to the wedding day is sort of the dating period for the couple.
A daughter is said to marry into a family in India.